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"It means that your meds are increasing your ability to focus, but they cannot change which things you focus on--which is pretty much what all ADHD medication does. All of us still need robust structures and external accountability in order for us to be able to focus on the "right" things--and a strong connection to a particular interest of ours in order to motivate us to stay on the right track. ADHD coaching and/or Accountability. Partners could help with this."

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Are your ADHD symptoms exacerbated in social situations?
It’s like, me at home: “I swear I’m not even that hyperactive, it’s all internalised”
Me interacting socially: “let me interrupt you constantly and speak absolute shit to you at 100 miles an hour at triple the volume a regular human could produce”

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"Many children use their high intelligence and determination to mask ADHD symptoms. This compensation occurs at great emotional cost. Many high-functioning individuals with ADHD harbor feelings of poor self-worth. They often see themselves as failures and feel that they are constantly letting others down..."

Lynn Phillips

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"Reason why it’s more common for ADD people to experience more anxiety than their non ADHD counterparts is because when someone is chronically forgetting obligations,daydreaming, speaking or acting impulsively, and being late can constantly cause anxiety. because of living in this world of anticipating these core underlying symptoms it can make one feel keyed up all the time just knowing that these signs will affect them.
Also constant worrying that Many ADD people do because of constantly seeking a potential problem that may or may not happen but is anticipated because of past experiences. This will most definitely cause Anxiety."

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"Medication so often is NOT enough, especially for women who are diagnosed far into adulthood and therefore have concurrent MH diagnoses (e.g. depression, OCD) that relate to having lived with untreated ADHD for our entire lives. Meds combined with psychotherapy and ADHD coaching is what's been really effective for me. By the way, many people feel a HUGE difference at the beginning of taking meds, but a few months down the line when they realise they're still struggling and it's not the panacea they thought it was, they have days just like you're having. Meds made a huge difference but doing the work of self-acceptance, learning about our brains and how to manage them, and figuring out how to navigate relationships with our partners and children with this new information is a lot of work and simply can't be avoided by relying solely on meds."

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"Today I feel helpless cause I feel I am not good enough
I want to blame all my shortcomings to the dysfunction of my brain
I wonder what and who I would have been if my brain was wired better.
I question my ability as a mom and if I can be strong enough to see her grow up
I am scared that one day I will lose it on my baby cause I can’t be patient enough
I am so tired of keep trying a new hobby and to only not ever finishing a project to the end
I am tired of being tired all the time
I am tired of my constant struggle with myself in the pursuit of finding calmness
I have lost confidence in what I can achieve
I am so tired of being so forgetful
I am so tired of spending so much money books, how to plans, therapy, meds and not ever seeing it all through
I am tired ..."

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"I just come back for my mom's house and I've been guilt-tripped because I never visit my grandparents and "they love me so much"."

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"I did very well in school but I remember having a tough time focusing on reading. I would have to reread the same paragraph several times before I got it. I just couldn’t focus. There were other signs too like having a really hard time starting a new project or following through etc. I guess everyone hits a point where their coping mechanisms don’t keep up with the demands of their lives. For my son it was 8th grade. For me, it was probably about 35 ..."

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"I was labelled 'gifted' in school. A straight 'A' student with marks in the mid '80s, the characteristics I had that should have been recognized as ADHD were completely missed. I did well in school and the ADHD kids didn't. I headed for university having been fed years of a steady diet that I could do anything I wanted (and I wanted to be a lawyer). No, as it turns out, I couldn't. What I could do, was school better than most, but by the seat of my pants. I couldn't study, I couldn't take notes, I couldn't manage my money, my relationships, my eating (apparently impulse control comes in handy for all of these things). Eventually, I was done school at age 30. Fast forward 35 years and the career I was going to school for has evaporated. I am facing an uncertain future heading into retirement almost 20 years early due to medical reasons - and one of those reasons is that my ADHD makes it impossible for me to function in my workplace. I have had nothing but self-loathing because I could never make my life work on so many fronts. Basic, basic skills that everyone else seems to be able to grasp, elude me. I have regularly felt hopeless enough, always screwing up, that even as far back as those teen years, I have struggled to choose to keep living."

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"High IQ and adhd is, in my opinion, a cocktail from hell. So much expected from you and you are unable to deliver."

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"I miss meaning behind language all the time. I need people to tell me exactly what they are saying and not infer anything."